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Guys:How to be Romantic, What She Won’t Tell You

by Marye Audet on October 11th, 2008

That’s a long title.  But a good one.  Guys, How to be Romantic, What She won’t Tell You….

The thing is that women don’t have to read things like this because we all ready know how to be romantic.   For some reason women crave the romance that they seem to be steeped in but they eschew actually having to write out a script so that you guys can figure it out.

Here is the basic rule.  For most  women intimacy is the romantic thing…that feeling of connection.

That moment in time when she is cooking and you walk up behind her and wrap your arms around her? Delicious!  Add the proverbial nape nibble and most females are melted butter.

But it isn’t always a physical thing.  Marc can look at me in a crowded room (and believe me all our rooms are crowded here) and there is something about that look, when we connect..it is pure romance.  I get the heart flutters all over again, for the millionth time.

Women have a real tendency to take care of people, many times at the expense of our own needs and desires.   I personally don’t think that is a bad thing.  Call me sexist if you like but I think we were created that way.  Dads make lousy moms, but moms make AWESOME moms.

Anyway this need to nurture has a down side.  It is the “what about me” button that sometimes gets pushed.  That point where we have given all we have an nothing has seemingly been given in return.

That is where romance comes in.  Romance, real romance, fills that place.  It is the point that you guys let us know that for you anyway, the world revolves around us totally…We are the center of your universe… and no matter what we look like to other people we look like a centerfold/covergirl to you.

You have to know your own wife I think.  I appreciate when Marc cleans house but I don’t think that it romantic.  Some women may be different and may think that a vacuum in your hand is the biggest aphrodisiac since Spanish Fly. Because I take care of so many people romance to me is something that is absolutely focused on me, has been planned purely for my pleasure and delight, and there are no interruptions in my being the complete center of attention.  And because I am very physical ..touch is always an important addition.

It is rare.

Anyway…ladies? Let’s help the guys out.  What is your idea of romance?

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