50 Questions to Ask Before Marriage
Do you know that this is a very common search phrase on the Internet? Well it is. I don’t know what questions they are looking for, or why, but after 28 years of marriage I am going to post the questions I think you should ask. Some are serious, some are serious only to me. And some are just to make old married people like me nod and laugh….
50 Questions to Ask Before Marriage (women asking men)
- Can you cook?
- Which side of the bed do you sleep on?
- Are you willing to switch sides?
- Are you willing to give Food Network equal time with ESPN?
- Does the idea of buying feminine products in the middle of the night at the local convenience store bother you?
- Can you translate this phrase? I am fine.
- What is the correct response to this question: Do I look fat in this?
- If you have only $25. left in checking would you buy roses or beer?
- Who will clean the toilets?
- Who puts gasoline in the cars?
- Who mows the yard?
- If there is one serving of ice cream left in the freezer who gets it?
- How often do you plan for us to have dinner at your mom’s?
- What should you do if I say I do not want a birthday (Christmas, anniversary) gift?
- What is your idea of weekend activities?
- Have you ever helped a goat give birth?
- Do you roll the toothpaste for the end or squeeze in the middle
- Where is your ideal vacation spot?
- How many different synonyms can you come up with for the word: pink?
- What are the top five responsibilities of a wife?
- Do you think that burping the Star Spangled Banner is a gift?
- How willing are you to eat weight watcher’s dinners because I am on a diet?
- The Notebook or Rambo?
- How many times do you hit the snooze button on the alarm clock before you finally get out of bed?
- Do you consider a can opener an appropriate gift for a wife?
- Burgers or Thai food?
- Are you willing to wear a suit coat to church so that you can give it to me when I get cold?
- What does the statement “I don’t care, whatever you want to do” mean to you?
- Is it o.k. to have friends of the opposite sex?
- What is a”normal ” amount of sex per week in your opinion? (less than 3 more than 30 run for the hills)
- Can you share at least one sexual fantasy?
- Can you say these words out loud.? Penis, vagina, testicles, clitoris
- What is a man’s role in marriage?
- What is a woman’s role in marriage?
- What does a romantic afternoon look like to you?
- Who gets up to light the fire in the fireplace when it is 10 degrees outside and 15 degrees inside?
- Will you mind if I wear your shirts?
- What are your thoughts about debt?
- How do we manage the money?
- Children, yes or no?
- Children, how many?
- How are you planning on handling your parents as they age?
- What is the proper response to “I don’t have anything to wear!”?
- Who tells the kids about sex?
- How old should the kids be?
- What are your spiritual beliefs?
- Toilet paper: over or under?
- Do you know how to put a toilet seat down?
- If you could live anywhere, where would it be and why?
- Do you love me?
- Who cleans the kitty litter?
- Do you think I look fat?
- Do you think I look old?
- Does this look o.k. on me?
- Do you love me?
O.k…so I am an overachiever…and we did not know this?
So that is it. Not a complete list by any means, and really not a completely serious one. The truth is that it is important to talk and ask questions both before and after marriage. I think that the most difficulties we have had have been in areas that we don’t communicate well.
Husbands and wives don’t mean to grow apart, they don’t mean to be unkind….miscommunication is the enemy.
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2 opinions for 50 Questions to Ask Before Marriage
Fern R
Aug 13, 2008 at 1:50 am
It amazes me how often people get married because “they love each other” and not because they’re compatible. How can people get married and not ask some of the questions you’ve mentioned above?! And what in the world led them to believe that loving each other was enough?
The other day I was talking to someone who was getting married to someone who was atheist (she was Catholic). I asked her how they planned to raise their children, she said, “You know, I never asked [fiance] that.” WHAT?! You’re marrying someone who has radically different religious beliefs and you never thought to discuss whether your kids would be baptized, go to church, go to parochial schools, etc? She later told me that because they love each other, she’s sure that they’ll be able to work everything out. I wish I was that optimistic.
Marye Audet
Aug 13, 2008 at 1:55 am
Fern,
You are absolutely right. On the other hand, I didn’t ask anything..I just got lucky…;)
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