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Did you say “Challenge”?

by Marc Audet on July 24th, 2008

Wow Kid!

That would be something! Thirty days. Wow! And you expect me to write after that. Wow! I’m having trouble thinking. Whew! Excuse me…

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A couple of days ago I was reading on a marriage board how Marye and I are in the rare 14-15 percent of marriages, where sex drives are reversed. By that I mean that in most marriages the guys sex drives are higher than their wife’s. In only 14-15 percent of those marriages the wife’s sex drive is higher than the husband’s.

And most guys who might hear of ours would look at me & say “Marc,You are truly blessed!” It has happened, an Associate Pastor who facilitated a married couples class along with his wife, where we went to church a while back said just that.

After we are married, as we discover each other we find we have differences. Not just how we squeeze the toothpaste or load the toilet paper, but sex, how much is enough?

Generally most guys want sex, and want it more often then the ladies.   But sometimes it is the opposite.  This has been a stress in our marriage and just when we were making progress in balancing our sex life, my health issues got in our way.

Who would have imagined great normal healthy sex in a otherwise good marriage could be a problem in my marriage. I wouldn’t have thought it.The sex wasn’t the problem. Not enough of it was.

There a lot of couples who struggle with the an area where God intended a wonderful gift for us as married couples. Sex. Because of our upbringing or past experiences, there are differences in what’s okay to do and what isn’t. If we don’t talk about it and come to an agreement as a couple we can deal with other issues.

Lust, porn (Playboy or Harlequin), control, rejection,and feeling like a failure in my marriage to name a few. And that’s if we are open in working through these things in our marriages. Marye and I have been blessed to have a tremendous marriage, but we have worked to have our marriage relationship.

Hmmm… Thirty days …

Am I up for it?

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