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And mark it with a “T”….

by Kerri on May 15th, 2008

….for “tattoo,” that is.

Yes, I got one. I think this is the last public platform that I can exploit to share the news. Though, here, at least, it does lead to a relevant post.

I’ve talked for years about getting a tattoo. Years. Bald Man’s always been, “yeah, that’s cool.” So, when I called on the way home from my trip with my best friend to have him look up a tattoo parlor in Cincinnati for us to stop at on a whim, I couldn’t understand why he had any issue or question about it at all.

Yes, I am that dense.

To me, it wasn’t a spur of the moment decision. It’s something I’d talked about forever (like, a whole ten years). It was something that I knew Bald Man was cool with. But I guess the whole spontaneity thing threw him off a bit. I’ll let him share that part with you.

The thing is, I would never do something that permanent to my body without talking with him about it. Let’s make it clear, I wasn’t asking permission. We already know how I feel about changing stuff to your own body. But I wouldn’t want to do something that permanent without giving him some input or allowing him to express any cautions.

I know others, though, who wouldn’t hesitate to make that decision on their own. People who have made decisions about surgeries (cosmetic) who have told their spouses that they’ve made a choice and their spouse has no say in it. That’s it. It’s over.

It’s not that I feel that I have to have consent from Bald Man for anything permanent, but I’ve chosen to marry him because I do love him and respect him and want him to be a part of any big decision I’d make.

What about you? Is a tattoo, piercing, cosmetic surgery or anything else permanently altering something you would consult with your spouse on?

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