I read his e-mail….
…and, no, I found nothing tantalizing, titillating, nor troubling.
In fact, the e-mail that I read was from a long lost couple that we’re trying to reconnect with, so maybe it was tantalizing after all. Except that it’s in reach. So, never mind.
The point (see? I do have one.) is that I read that e-mail without telling him first. And there’s no big deal that I did, considering that I needed all the info contained within. I would have known it all eventually anyway. That, however, is not why I read it. I read it because I have no delay of gratification, and I really wanted to know what it said right then. And so I read it.
Would I have issues if he read mine first? Yes. Why? Because I like to get mail, mail that isn’t junk or forwards or whatnot, and that would be like stealing all the mail-joy from me. Just what I did from him. Only he didn’t care (I don’t think).
Anyway, I’m just wondering if it’s normal to read a spouse’s e-mail. This was never an issue for us before because Bald Man read his on the other computer (where he most often works). Now, however, all of our mail comes through the exact same screen, teasing me with the number of messages he has. And then I just want to read the good ones right then. (Yes, I have issues, I know.)
Like I said, I don’t think he cares all that much. But I want to know how it works in your relationships. Do your spouses have access to your lines of communication? Do you care if they do? Is anyone else a communication freak like me?
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6 opinions for I read his e-mail….
a husband
Apr 16, 2008 at 10:49 pm
My wife and I are so excited about mail that if one of us has some and the other doesn’t, we’ll usually read the other’s.
I try and stay away from hers during birthdays and holidays (I hate ruining surprises), and she stays away from those that may contain information she just doesn’t want to hear (other guys’ problems), but our mail is free between the two of us.
akakarma
Apr 17, 2008 at 5:58 am
We share an email addy and thus, there is no telling lots of time one emails from the other. I am a very curious person so I like to know everything. My H is a very efficient, practical person so he barely reads the emails he thinks might be his much less mine! This leads to convos like,”honey you got an interesting email from your mom you might want to read…”.
Heather
Apr 17, 2008 at 7:53 am
We aren’t overly protective of our email, but I try not to make a habit of opening his mail. Usually it isn’t an issue because I work at home and he works at an office. I see nothing wrong with it in a situation like yours. Oh and I’m with A Husband - you need to be EXTRA careful during the holidays! :-)
Maria
Apr 17, 2008 at 8:49 am
We maintain our own email. There are times when we read one anothers, but really that happens so seldom…
Kerri
Apr 19, 2008 at 11:08 pm
ahusband: Mmmm….gotta agree with ya on the holiday and birthday stuff. I do love a surprise, though I guess if I’m still surprised and he knew, that’d be okay. Of course, I’m usually the one ruining surprises because I just get too excited to wait to tell him!
akakarma: I totally forgot to mention that option!!! We do have friends who do that as well, sharing an address. Sometimes it takes a minute, though, to figure out who I’m hearing from! I think some couples do that for integrity reasons.
Heather: That’s kinda how we are. There’s nothing in my e-mail that he can’t see, but I don’t think he’s all that interested in them, anyway. :P btw-Made it to Ele’s bakery in WC today. So cute and YUM!!!
Maria: That sounds about like us, too. :)
Thanks for all the comments!!!!!
akakarma
Apr 20, 2008 at 5:30 am
Well, honestly- my H’s communication is so sparse that many times, if I didn’t read the email, I may not find out about something for months! Sigh!
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