The Honey-Do Jar
Spring is in the air, and this year it means a whole bunch of remodeling around the Aldrich homestead. We’ve got a deck at bat, a kitchen on deck, and about twelve other things waiting in the dugout for their turn. (I can’t believe I just used a baseball metaphor.) We’re doing most of this with help from my parents and a lot of sweat equity.
This week it hit me,
(I say “I have a lot of stuff,” but I mean we, Kerri and me.)
This is our first year undertaking any home projects of significance. Up until now the kids have required too much supervision to do anything with them around, so we’ve been limited to smaller projects, like painting, that can be accomplished in the span of an overnight stay with grandma. So far the kids have been great! Now, lets see how it goes when we get into the heavy lifting.
What’s my point? This. Our remodeling projects have me thinking about how the “honey-do” list works in your home. TV has taught me that the wife is supposed to put together a big list of projects, which the husband then ignores until the wife nags him into a guilt motivated bout of DIY penance. Is that how it works at your house?
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1 opinion for The Honey-Do Jar
Maria
Apr 13, 2008 at 1:06 pm
Well, I give my husband a list, because he asks for a list, because he sure as you know what does not recognize that things need to be done. When he is in the US (and while we were abroad together), he would work maybe 4 hours a day… then he would proceed to mess with his computer/play video games/do nothing for the rest of the day. It was causing a lot of friction, and still does, in our marriage– especially with me working full time and being the primary care giver to our son. I got (and get) almost no downtime, yet he finds 10 hours a day to download music and play the wii.
Now– does he do things on the list as quickly as I might like? No, but I do check back for progress and add new things. When everything didn’t get done in November before he left again, each time it caused me an issue, I made sure to tell him the consequences of his inaction. Each year he gets better… maybe by the time we’ve been married 30 years, he won’t need a list any more?
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