Hairy Situations
Funny thing happened on the way home from the hairdressers….
So, I got most of my hair chopped off last week. I went to the hairdressers for a color (that actually matched my roots so I can maybe just let my grays grow in) and a trim. I came home with about 6-8 inches less length to my hair. So far, still happy with my decision. ;)
The thing that really made me laugh, though, was the number of times someone asked me what Cory thought of my hair and if he was okay with me cutting it.
“Ummm….yeah….he liked it. Annnnddd…..it’s my hair so he doesn’t really get a say.”
And then I’ve been reminded of the number of times I’ve heard a friend or acquaintance say that they’d love to cut their hair, but their husband doesn’t want them to. And so they don’t. For real.
I know that all marriages aren’t the same, but I honestly can’t imagine being an adult and not doing something with my hair just because my spouse doesn’t want me to. If it’s a religious issue or something like that, I can understand it better. If it’s an issue that involves the functioning of a marriage, or something that truly affects both of you, I can understand consulting each other. But really? Your own hair?
Or maybe it’s just because Bald Man is bald, and I know I don’t have a say in his hairstyle, so he can’t have a say in mine.
I’d love some feedback here. I’m sure I’m not the only one who walks into a salon and changes her mind about what she’s going to do there without a thought as to whether or not it will bother her spouse. But I also want to hear from those of you who wouldn’t change your look without approval or agreement from your spouse, husband or wife.
So, does your spouse have a say in your hairstyle or other aspects of your appearance?
photo credit: Dplanet
Tags: approval, hair-cut, hair-style, marriage, marriage-blog, stylePOSTED IN: About Us, Just wondering...
7 opinions for Hairy Situations
marye
Dec 18, 2007 at 2:30 am
Yep..he does. I have long hair and I like it..but those times that I thought about cutting it he asked me not to.
He has a beard. I love it. I have asked him not to cut it off..and even when he is tempted he doesn’t. I guess I don’t feel like it is being controlled..I just feel like I am doing something nice for him. It has worked for 28 years so I am not about to change it.
Annie
Dec 18, 2007 at 8:23 pm
So where’s the picture of the new haircut!
Ann Williams
Dec 18, 2007 at 8:26 pm
Where’s the picture of the new Haircut!
Joshua Johnson
Dec 21, 2007 at 4:00 pm
My wife and I have a sort of reciprocal agreement–I understand it when she says something like “I have to be seen with you, you can’t wear THAT,” and she is cool with keeping her hair long…well, almost all the time… :)
Kerri
Dec 21, 2007 at 10:38 pm
marye: Sounds like a great arrangement for you both! I’m sure we have some unspoken agreements in other areas. I’ll have to think on what they are. :)
Annie: It’s coming! ;) You were supposed to see it the other night when I didn’t end up making it out. :(
Joshua: Well, of course she couldn’t be seen out with you if you were thinking of wearing THAT. Sheesh. What were you thinking?!?! :P
Liz.
Dec 23, 2007 at 12:44 am
I ask opinions when cutting my hair but I get the final say it how my hair looks. Then again I do want him to be happy with the way I look so I guess in a way I listen to what he has to say. But, I’m in the same boat as the first poster. My guy has a beard and I won’t let him shave it off because I like him with a bear. So I suppose it’s only fair he has a say in my hair. Unless it’s something ridiculous that wouldn’t look good on me, otherwise it’s not a big deal.
And mark it with a “T”….
May 15, 2008 at 10:43 pm
[…] without talking with him about it. Let’s make it clear, I wasn’t asking permission. We already know how I feel about changing stuff to your own body. But I wouldn’t want to do something that […]
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