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Loving What We Hate

by Bald Man on October 1st, 2007

There are times when as individuals Kerri and I hate ourselves. No, not that self-loathing, “I suck” kinda stuff. And hate is probably too strong a word; it’s just the most convenient one to grab in moments like these. Here’s how it goes:

There are certain attributes that each of us possess. Sometimes those attributes are strengths. Other times, they rear their heads as weaknesses. It’s when they rear up as a weakness that we “hate ourselves.”

I think we all find ourselves in this place from time to time. Such is the human experience. Consider the Myers Briggs Personality Type. Four dichotomies to help make sense of our look on life. In one circumstance, one personality type has an edge; in another that same personality type struggles. Even those in the middle are not completely immune, for there are times when an extreme point of view has an advantage.

But here is when you can help your spouse. When your spouse’s strengths are playing out more like weaknesses, remind them that you love them. Remind them that you love their “weaknesses,” that those characteristics are part of the person you married and chose.

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