Who’s your momma?
One of my biggest pet peeves is to be with a couple and to hear one person speak to the other like a child. Now, certainly there are a number of behaviors that can fit this description, and can fall anywhere on the spectrum from mildly annoying to downright abusive. And if it’s gotten so bad that I’ve called it downright abusive, I assume you know what I think of it. ‘Nuff said.
Anyway, for some reason, it bothers me most when it’s a wife sounding like she’s “mothering” her husband. I don’t think that’s sexist of me, I just think I’ve rarely heard it the opposite way. Still, it bugs me to death and I just sit there thinking, “He’s your husband. Why are you treating him that way? Why do you think it’s appropriate for you to tell him what to do? Why does he have to ask you if he can do that?”
And you want to know when it bugs me the most? When I hear myself doing it. Yeah, I have caught myself mothering Cory. And I know I’ve gotten bad about it when Cory’s asking me if I mind him doing something and I’m like, “Why are you even asking me? I’m not your mom.” And I can tell from the look in his eyes it’s because I’ve harped on him one too many times lately about trivial stuff. Sounds so unlike me, I know. ;)
I’m sure I’m not the only one, though, or else Everybody Loves Raymond wouldn’t have been nearly as successful as it was.
Anyone else out there wanna fess up? :D
Tags: annoying-habits, Everybody-Loves-Raymond, marriage, marriage-blog, mothering-your-husbandPOSTED IN: About Us
4 opinions for Who’s your momma?
Kate
Jun 10, 2007 at 1:01 pm
OK, sometimes if he has food in the corner of his mouth, I wipe it off for my husband. That said, I never spit on the tissue first.
And, much to my credit, I have never even tried to give him a time out. He might enjoy it too much.
Kerri
Jun 11, 2007 at 10:52 pm
Kate: I knew I could count on you to fess up, if only to wiping your hubby’s face. :) Yeah, if anyone’s getting a time out it’s gonna be ME! :P
Tracee Sioux
Jun 12, 2007 at 8:44 am
Kerri (and Cory),
I find myself doing this when sending my husband to the store. I talk to him as if he’s a 10 year old on his first trip to the corner station by himself.
“It must be the Ibuprophen and some sort of NyQuil for children. We already have an acetamenophen cough medicine.”
He looks insulted.
Then he comes back with two bottles of acetomenaphin cough medicine (which we already have) with different labels.
Then I look at him and say something horrible, “I don’t know why I ever think I can send you to the store for the right thing.”
Kerri
Jun 12, 2007 at 9:36 pm
Oh yes, I’ve been there. I think there was a commercial awhile back where the wife went around taking pictures of the containers that she needed the husband to buy, printed them up at home, and then sent him with a stack of photos to the grocery so he’d come back with the right things. Insulting? Maybe, but might be better than the backlash of a frustrated wife! :P
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