Are you dating your spouse?
You’d think that being married would mean that the days of waiting to be asked out on a date would be over. You know, waiting for the phone to ring, wondering if you’ll be out on Friday night, or if you’ll be playing board games with the family yet again.
You’d think, but it’s not always true. Although you may not be wondering if the phone would ring (that would be weird, assuming you live together, though Cory and I have been known to Skype from room to room on occasion. Yes, we are that odd sometimes.), it might take a Herculean effort to remember the last time you and your spouse shared an activity together, just the two of you.
It’s so easy to get caught up in the busyness in life. For us, it’s mostly getting caught up with the kids, but I imagine that careers, extended family and other hobbies would be just as likely to become a vortex for all the time that you thought you had in a day. In the midst of the busyness, do you purposely set apart time to be together? Are you nearly as purposeful in spending time with each other now as you were when you first started dating?
I know that Cory and I intend to spend a lot of time together that never happens. We do spend some time together, just not near as much as we should. And it’s because we’re not nearly as intentional about it all as we should be, or as we once were.
The nice part about dating your spouse now is that you’re no longer spending so much time trying impress each other, you just get to enjoy all the things about each other that you already know you love. And though a big production of a date is sometimes fun, time alone on a walk or something simple is a perfect time to reconnect and keep the fires burning as well.
What’s a perfect date for you and your spouse?
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3 opinions for Are you dating your spouse?
Tracee Sioux
Jun 12, 2007 at 8:47 am
We used to go on random dates every couple of months. But, then we had marital problems and separated for about a month and realized that we MUST make dating each other a BIGGER priority than the kids, jobs and church responsibilities.
We, the cheapest people who ever lived, now budget $20 for a babysitter EVERY Thursday night. We might go to a $1 movie or Taco Bell, but we’re going somewhere to do something together. Period.
Now, if I could just get him to stop treating me like his sister or his buddy on our dates things would be great.
Tracee
Kerri
Jun 12, 2007 at 9:47 pm
Tracee: Thanks for the comment. :) Dating is sooo important. I’m glad to hear that you guys have been able to take a step toward making marriage a priority. It is so easy for working on our marriages to come after all of the other important, but secondary, stuff. I know, we’ve been there, too! I hope the best for you and your husband! And for a little more romance, it sounds like. :)
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